“Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won’t adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words “make” and “stay” become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free.”—Still Life With Woodpecker by Tom Robbins
Me:But okay, if Odysseus spent like, seven years at Calypso's island sobbing EVERY DAY about his wife, and then goes through this whole shitstorm to get home and see her, why would he sleep with Circe and all her maids?
Teacher:Because he needed to save his crewmen! It's just Circe! Goddesses don't count! He hadn't seen his wife in years! THEY WERE ON A BREAK!!!!!
Some people turn sad awfully young. No special reason, it seems, but they seem almost to be born that way. They bruise easier, tire faster, cry quicker, remember longer and, as I say, get sadder younger than anyone else in the world. I know, for I’m one of them.
I just read these lines yesterday and underlined them to post. Good timing. Ray Bradbury is one of my absolute favorites. What a man.
15. fuck the word “uppity.” you do not have to choose any community over the other, academic, of color, queer, political, mixed, poor, transgender, from the hood. if possible, embrace & let them all live, inform, and complicate one another.
14. odds are you will be forced to study mostly white, straight, skinny,cisgender, european/anglo, possibly rich people’s discourse. read itto read it, to unlearn it. find the work that really calls your skilland passions.
14.5 when a friend of privilege calls you or intros you as their _______ [insert race, ethnicity, sexuality, identity here], back fist them. no wait, don’t. hmmm, well maybe. no, don’t. talk it out & if that doesn’t work out, dump them.
13. take advantage of the fancy gym membership if you can.
12. all the “free” food in the cafeteria isn’t really free. it’s actually money you are going to owe well beyond your diploma plus interest and by then, you’ll actually need real free food.
11. you may wake up late to your classes because you’ve shacked up with a new lover. don’t forget that the diploma will probably lead you to better lovers. studying before sex.
11.99 always practice safer sex: communication, consent, gloves, dams, condoms, etc.
10. as professors look to you to speak for your entire people (queer, people of color, asian, people with disabilities, etc.), clenchyour jaw the way you do to a fist. anything you say here will be misinterpreted. any response you have is genuine.
9. when you feel uncomfortable/unsafe in either bathroom options “mens” or “womens” find your nearest GSA or supportive faculty and peers. let them listen to you. what you can you do to make the campus more transgender-empowered.
8. when your dorm roommate shops at bloomingdales, barney’s & co, and gets upset when her dad gets her the hunter green range rover instead of black (like she requested). don’t show that you add up the total she’s spent on how that would pay your family’s food, mortgage, how your family/friends don’t make that much in annual salary. don’t workshop her, you aren’t paid for it and you both will just end up staring blankly at one another which will prove awkward when you will both be sharing the same closet, sleeping, and eating space.
7. if a classmate in your composition & rhetoric class says, they shouldn’t live in the u.s. if they don’t speak english. run to your homeland tongue(s), read poetry only in this language for an hour, appreciate it’s curve and girth. go back to your neighborhood if you can and hear the languages that you grew up with—- in the market, at church, over a table of dominoes or majong.
6.32 there is a possibility that a classmate or roommate may confuse you as the help or as a foreign exchange student. kindly step away and do your homework. tell them off only if you won’t let it rot you.
6.18 you are brilliant and you deserve to be here. let no one questionthat.
6. your final transcript will not say: grandpa died your freshman year, hence the incomplete; your girlfriend is abusive and hits you, hence the tardiness; you will be considered a hero and a traitor to your family for being educated and for being educated.
5.60 take crying breaks. they help, honest.
5. don’t sign-up for any credit cards.
4.75 take care of yourself financially, holistically, emotionally, and spiritually. ALL are critical for your moving beyond survival, but joyous action.
4. when the liberal gay white people tell you to just come out to yourfamily, understand they have no idea what is going on in your life or how your race/ethnicity/cultures are so different. find other queer people of color and allies (if they exist where you are) to support you.
3.76 there may be a moment when white people—straight and LGBTQGNC will exotify you under the guise of being “radical.” ignore them at all costs but be civil. they are dangerous.
3. you are brilliant and you deserve to be here. let no one questionthat.
2.29 somewhere there is a mentor, an organization, a department, a club that thinks you are amazing. keep them in your life for as long as you can. they will have your back.
2. grades are the paper of it and you need the grades to play the game. get good grades, but seek communities committed to work that you are curious about or committed to.
1. this is a system meant to destroy you. you may lose some of yourself in the process. understand that is the sacrifice and that you will re-build some of yourself too. promise.
Too amazing and true to not reblog. As someone who went to an overwhelmingly white/privileged/cisgender private university, this would have helped me a lot back in the day.
I found this very interesting and lovely. I have but one small qualm (mostly because I can’t speak personally to a lot of these things). That said, better advice would be TO sign up for a credit card, but to use it wisely, carefully, and knowledgeably. The earlier you can start building credit, the better; your score comes in part from how long your oldest credit account has been open. Of course, it also counts whether you pay it on time, whether you pay off your balances, etc. So open one, but do it with your brain and not with your desire for material things. I can’t tell you how many of my friends are now in their late 20s or early 30s, have never had a credit card, and have trouble buying the car or house they deserve (and have worked so hard for) as a result of “immature” credit ratings.