I sewed mad curtains tonight, you guys. I had to learn how to wind the bobbin, change the needle to the proper weight for velvet — I feel very accomplished. I just wanted to share that, perhaps soon I will share a photo of the curtains in their home at Odd Fellows and gloat over my skillz.
“I got my reasons to live- I worked hard to figure out what they are. I’m not just handing them to you. You want a reason to live? Have a drink of water and get some sleep, wake up in the morning and try again like everybody else does.”—Louis C.K.
We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.
First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.
Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.
You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course it isn’t puppy love.
But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it — and that I can tell you.
Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.
The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.
If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.
Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.
It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.
Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.
We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.
And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.
support K’s teeth. the funds will be used for dental surgery costs + related expenses. thank you for any support you can provide!
Since 2007, K. Barrett has faced a chain of oral surgeries— impacted wisdom teeth that resulted in painful allodynia on the chin and jaw, decay into 3 root canals, and last year, 2 longstanding abscesses that weren’t receptive to anti-biotics only to be treated w/ oral surgery.
Along with this dental history, K. was attacked and injured at work in november 2009. This traumatic experience resulted in extensive nerve damage to their right foot, arthritis, bone shifting/foot fractures as well as a sprained thumb and wrist now with arthritis and the likelihood of carpel tunnel syndrome. Treatment under worker’s comp has been slow, grueling, and often, dehumanizing. Though, the most recent court case ruled that K. should receive foot surgery, they waited for over 1.5 years for this surgery. Finally, surgery happened in the beginning of December, but Worker’s Comp (WC) has yet to update compensation or make adequate payments for basic needs to be met.
This medical journey also led K. to face increased homophobia, racism, transphobia, and ableism that has exhausted them spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. Frequently, WC doctors, surgeons and professionals will accompany gender shame or victim-blaming without understanding the particular difficulties that someone with several identities has to face professionally.
The money donated will help pay for K’s latest dental costs that include 1filling and another root canal. Though these procedures seem minimal, K. like many QTPOCs, simply seeks care that is accessible, welcoming and respectful.
Please help and ease strain for K. during this time of hardship! Thank you for all of your love, support, intentions, suggestions, and hope during this time.
Again, thank you for your time during a hectic winter time and hope that this arrives to you in warmth.
Yesterday, as part of MLK Day events at Yale, there was a free Sweet Honey in the Rock concert. It was amazing. Everything about it was fantastic. I just finished reading a biography of Afeni Shakur (a really rad Black Panther, b/k/a Tupac’s mom) by Jasmine Guy, and the end of the book is the…
There is a lot of rain. It could be snow though, and I’m very glad that it’s not. I am awaiting my chariot, the Big Medicine, the Great White Buffalo of conversion vans — good god, it just occurred to me that the van’s name is wildly appropriative. I will have to call it something else in my head from now on. But at any rate, we’re off to Harrisonburg for one night of punk rocking. I’m bringing both of my cameras, a sketchbook, markers, a sleeping bag, and a change of clothes. No toothbrush, or make-up, but definitely deodorant. I feel vaguely anxious about the whole thing for a reason I can’t yet discern. My feelings that “something bad is going to happen” sometimes cause something bad to happen, so instead I’m going to daydream that Henry Rollins will show up to surprise the guys in Buck Gooter and prove, once and for all, that he is their biggest fan. I hope he’s nice to me when we meet. The last time I went to Harrisonburg — and yes, there was a last time, which is odd in and of itself — it was to meet the man who’d later assist in destroying my self-worth and trust of humanity. I’ve got both things back, to some degree, but it’s weird, isn’t it, how things come full circle?
“I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro’s great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen’s Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to “order” than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: “I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action”; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man’s freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a “more convenient season.” Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Lukewarm acceptance is much more bewildering than outright rejection.”—
Martin Luther King, Jr., “Letter from a Birmingham Jail”
Only MLK quote I’m entertaining for the day. If you can’t get down with this MLK, the forgotten, less cheery-hand-holding MLK, then don’t come at me about what my relationship to his legacy should be and why I should be a pacifist.