For myself, identifying as femme is not about adhering to any code or strictures of conduct. It is about loving my body, even when I am told I am too skinny or not in shape. It is about respecting and revering the women in my life without objectifying or essentializing them, but also without pretending that we are the same. It is about loving who I love, desiring who I desire, and not worrying about what types of roles I or my partners should take on in a relationship, or in bed. It is about dressing the way I like, and moving the way my body wants to move.
It is about making people uncomfortable in ways that I hope will make the world a safer place. It is about speaking loudly. It is about placing myself in a linage of other queer folks of all identities who also stood by their communities while challenging them to change. It is about remembering the riot, and never being comfortable with the way things are. It is about dancing and laughing, gathering and organizing. It is about feminism. It is about fearlessness. It is about always being ready to fight.” — We Are All Subversives: Femme Strength and Queer Solidarity (via grrrlstudies)
Wake up leisurely around 11:30 a.m.
Get offered a job; accept.
Eat breakfast with my romantic partner, drink coffee, laze about.
Get dressed when I feel like it.
Receive a text invitation to spend some time with booze and my platonic partner.
Meet aforementioned platonic partner at Ultimo Coffee; more lazing, smoke, excellent espresso, booze, chat with friends.
Have a delicious brunch at the South Philly Taproom. Talk over food: old jobs, new jobs, romantic lives (his, mine is boring and I am thankful for that).
Force him to allow me to buy him lunch.
Force him to let me hug him and generally shower him with love.
Ride home together.
Part ways with, “Thank you! I’ll call you later.”
This situation feels remarkably similar to the end of sleep-away summer camp. Spend three months together, fall in love, experience the highest elation and joy, then heartbreak and disappointment. You promise you’ll keep in touch and exchange addresses, but you probably won’t follow through.