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polyamorous-love:

A must read. I myself too have learned a lot from this post, including many lists of books,movies, and sites of resources for more information and knowledge.

I recommend this article.

(via fuckyeahfeminists)

thegenderbook:

The gender binary (and alternative systems)

Public bathrooms, like drivers licenses and census forms, present us with two options. You’re either male or female. In this system, your gender and sex are assumed to be the same thing. However, this isn’t always true for gender diverse or intersex  folks.

My friends and I would love a gender system that includes more options than male and female. Can you imagine that? What might it look like?

(cc) the GENDER book. please share and comment on our original post if you want us to see it. Thanks! -Mel

Our shop has gender neutral bathrooms and it makes me SO VERY HAPPY. Also, this book looks awesome. I got someone in mind who might like it. <3

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rosaedivinehouse:

kararikue:

faggotblogger-:

I WEAR MAKEUP BECAUSE I KNOW IT MAKES YOU UNCOMFORTABLE.

Fuck you for constantly asking me why I wear so much makeup on a day to day basis. Fuck you for questioning my gender and asking me if I want to be a woman. Fuck you for making me feel bad about myself. Fuck you for thinking I use cheap foundation. Fuck you for never having my right shade. Fuck you for telling me my makeup is too much for the workplace. Fuck you for saying I shouldn’t wear makeup. Fuck you for saying “guy’s won’t find this attractive.” Fuck you for saying I look so much better without it. Fuck you for thinking the only reason I wear makeup is because I’m insecure. Fuck you for thinking men shouldn’t wear it. Fuck you for clocking my chin contour, I tried motherfucker.

My face is beat everyday and if you shame me one more fucking time about the pigments I decide to slather all over my face that day I will legitimately whoop your ass.

The bolded! Ugh, hear it all the time the more femme I present. Preach!

hell yeah!  all the transphobic people and gender police can suck it.

(via robynchurches)

prettybooks:

Shannon Hale: WHY BOYS DON’T READ ‘GIRL’ BOOKS

shannonhale:

When I do book signings, most of my line is made up of young girls with their mothers, teen girls alone, and mother friend groups. But there’s usually at least one boy with a stack of my books. This boy is anywhere from 8-19, he’s carrying a worn stack of the Books of Bayern, and he’s excited and unashamed to be a fan of those books. As I talk to him, 95% of the time I learn this fact: he is home schooled.

There’s something that happens to our boys in school. Maybe it’s because they’re around so many other boys, and the pressure to be a boy is high. They’re looking around at each other, trying to figure out what it means to be a boy—and often their conclusion is to be “not a girl.” Whatever a girl is, they must be the opposite. So a book written by a girl? With a girl on the cover? Not something a boy should be caught reading.

But something else happens in school too. Without even meaning to perhaps, the adults in the boy’s life are nudging the boy away from “girl” books to “boy” books. When I go on tour and do school visits, sometimes the school will take the girls out of class for my assembly and not invite the boys. I talk about reading and how to fall in love with reading. I talk about storytelling and how to start your own story. I talk about things that aren’t gender-exclusive. But because I’m a girl and there are girls on my covers, often I’m deemed a girl-only author. I wonder, when a boy author goes to those schools with their books with boys on the covers, are the girls left behind? I want to question this practice. Even if no boy ever really would like one of my books, by not inviting them, we’re reinforcing the wrong and often-damaging notion that there’s girls-only stuff and you aren’t allowed to like it.

I hear from teachers that when they readPrincess Academyin class (by far the most girlie-sounding of all my books) that the boys initially protest but in the end like it as much as the girls, or as one teacher told me recently, “the boys were even bigger fans than the girls.”

Another staple in my signing line is the family. The mom and daughters get their books signed, and the mom confides in me, “My son reads your books on the sly” or “My son loves your books too but he’s embarrassed to admit it.” Why are they embarrassed? Because we’ve made them that way. We’ve told them in subtle ways that, in order to be a real boy, to be manly, they can’t like anything girls like.

Though sometimes those instructions aren’t subtle at all. Recently at a signing, a family had all my books. The mom had me sign one of them for each of her children. A 10-year-old boy lurked in the back. I’d signed some for all the daughters and there were more books, so I asked the boy, “Would you like me to sign one to you?” The mom said, “Yeah, Isaac, do you want her to put your name in agirlbook?” and the sisters all giggled.

As you can imagine, Isaac said no.

Fuck that, I can’t wait to raise an awesome man.

(via stfuconservatives)

This is how thoroughly we women have been sexualized, that we cannot make the kind of noises that come with physical exertion without it being associated with sex. In fact, everything about our bodies has been sexualized in one way or another. If we groan during sport or we breast-feed in public, we are criticized for making people think about sex. If we talk openly about things like menstruation and poop and farts, then we are criticized for making people not want to think about sex.

Think about what it means to be ladylike and all of the adjectives that go along with it: elegant, cultured, classy, sophisticated. To be successful at being feminine means being successful at being private, keeping your body’s natural functions behind closed doors and never letting anyone know they exist. It means to be constrained, that you do not let your legs spread wide in public transportation and you do not make noises that are harsh on the ears. It means presenting a polished, shiny surface to the world at all times, one that allows others to project whatever they wish onto you while never showing too much of your true self.
The best way to dehumanize someone while claiming you’re not is to believe you are just the same. You erase their experiences and perspective, their struggles and obstacles, their unique way of having to deal with those things in a world that also erases them. With the words, ‘but humans are humans’ or the bullshit dramatics of ‘we all bleed red’ normal people can simply pretend that if we all did things the way they did, then everything would work out okay. But, yes, we all bleed red but you don’t treat a papercut the same way you treat a gash, you don’t treat an infected wound the same way you treat one that isn’t, you don’t treat a wound to the leg the same way you treat a wound to the gut. You are not acknowledging someone’s personhood when you ignore the very things that make their lives different than yours, and when you refuse to understand that their circumstances have given them their own perspective that is just as valid as yours. More valid in fact – their perspective about their experiences that you haven’t been through is far more valid than anything you could ever think about it.
lacigreen:

viviandemilo:

vizzz:

based on a photograph of the flawless human viviandemilo and the theories of judith butler from gender trouble, which you can find as a full text PDF by clicking right here.

This is so awesome! &lt;3 and mmmm I really like that shade of green.

judith butler is brilliant.  if you’re interested in gender, gender trouble is a must read.

lacigreen:

viviandemilo:

vizzz:

based on a photograph of the flawless human viviandemilo and the theories of judith butler from gender trouble, which you can find as a full text PDF by clicking right here.

This is so awesome! <3 and mmmm I really like that shade of green.

judith butler is brilliant.  if you’re interested in gender, gender trouble is a must read.

homoarigato:

xxboy:

tonguedepressors:

Bettina Rheims

The Gender Studies

beautiful. wish kael t block wasn’t involved though.

^

(via sexxxisbeautiful)

viviandemilo:

vizzz:

based on a photograph of the flawless human viviandemilo and the theories of judith butler from gender trouble, which you can find as a full text PDF by clicking right here.

This is so awesome! &lt;3 and mmmm I really like that shade of green.

So rad.

viviandemilo:

vizzz:

based on a photograph of the flawless human viviandemilo and the theories of judith butler from gender trouble, which you can find as a full text PDF by clicking right here.

This is so awesome! <3 and mmmm I really like that shade of green.

So rad.

(via senhoritaugly)